Ummmmmmm... If you really want to " help " the only suggestion I can give is start attending al-anon meetings. My suggestion if you decide to take this route is don't give up too easily on the al-anon meetings. They will be able to help you more than anyone right now. " don't quit before the miracle happens " . It is difficult to give any other advice because the advice should be based on her " progression ". I was a shut in drunk. Drinking gallons of vodka every week. I didn't require detox but some do. Some need jail time to wake up. My point is that everyone has their bottom and until your friend is there she will NEVER sober up. Sorry to say that but I am speaking from personal experience and it took me over twenty years of drinking to get sick enough to sober up. Some it takes just a few years.