i think your a good friend & i wish i was lucky enough to have one like u! your right there isn't much u can do if she isn't willing to do for herself! she has to want to quit! u can want it all u want. i'm sorry that is a hard thing to hear i know. no one could help me until i was ready to help myself! my advise to u is to just be there for her but don't let her use you! good luck!