My parents invalidated me, and just about .every emotion I ever felt as a child; therefore, whenever I encounter similar situations where I feel my feelings are being invalidated, I get triggered.

I also am triggered around issues of control; whenever people try to tell me what to do, how to do it, how to feel or NOT feel, I am triggered. My parents were very controlling of me. I need to come to my own conclusions, however long that takes.

I am triggered when my boundaries are disrespected. My boundaries were disrespected as a child; therefore, I get triggered every time someone crosses my boundaries or crosses my lines of respect. People disrespecting my wishes and needs is most triggering to me.

I am learning about all these areas, and I am learning how to manage my triggers best. I am trying to grow.

I also have a lot of self-improvement goals for myself this year. I don't believe in new years resolutions because I always break them, lol.

But I am ready to face some issues I've been putting off facing for a very long time:

-exercise: start exercising because I don't
-my eating habits: lose 15 pounds
-boundaries: have stronger boundaries
-emotional triggers: responding vs reacting
-3 drink limit when out
-exercising self-care
-stop obsessing and ruminating
-be okay with "good enough" and trying my best: not expecting perfection

What's strange is that I came up with all of this not from my therapy, but outside of therapy dealing with life.

This is more like a journal entry so that I can document my goals and my triggers, how I need to grow and where I wish to head in life. I also want to track how I'm doing with each on a regular basis.

I'm not asking for opinions or constructive criticisms. I am simply documenting this for myself to visit and revisit. It may not be in the right forum, so mods please move if not.

Anyone have self-improvement goals or emotional triggers they want to share? Feel free.