Ok, so we know my T can be a little to the far opposite of the reactions you are getting but... one of the things I really like is that he does greet me by name in the waiting area (often I am the only one there). He also tells me something little about his day or his weekend which obviously doesn’t break confidentiality. It is usually something really little, last session it was that he forgot to grab a drink before he left his house so he was going to grab a water and be in. I guess he can be more relaxed because he is in private practice (I never had any luck finding good T’s at clinics). There are two other T’s that work out of that office but I have only seen one of them. Just before he went on vacation last time they both came out to see who’s client was there. He said it was Omers but if you want her you can have her. The other T just about panicked! We had a good laugh. So obviously there is room for T’s to be more warm and ingaging.
Like I said, I have always had a harder time in a clinic setting and found them to be more cautious. Perhaps more out of concern about other staff saying something than a problem towards the client? I have also never gotten counseling outside of the US so perhaps some of it is cultural or different rules/laws?
I know it would really bother me too even more now that I have had a T that is so personable. Will they even respond if you say something first?