Dear Lilymop, although still struggling with certain difficulties in my life, I definitely have had that experience; I've found acceptance through facing the pain.

I don't know if facing is the right word...

It seems clear now that many of my behaviours (like the eating disorders) were about distracting myself from the real pain. I was on the run from it. Terrified of become depressed and overwhelmed by it.

My best therapist said what your counseler is saying; we have to let the truth come, no matter what, and sort of stand in the middle of it.

That's the only position, I believe, from which true healing can happen.

So much love to you.