I also think that people who have tendencies to be co dependent tend to be attracted to people who are emotionally unavailable. I think both need to work on self... also labelling someone who is the opposite which someone was initially attracted to usually isn't kind or even accurate. Many ''co dependents'' have done a lot of work on themselves, even without adequate therapeutic support and so are not automatically ''weak'' or ''needy'' - whatever that even is.

Someone who has a wall up... the wall is there for a reason. I was told by a therapist I had ''too many defences''. wtf does that mean? ''Too many'' walls for her to …..