i think it may be a good idea to get a new sponcer b/c this is a selfish program & in order to be a sponcer u must be actively working the 12 steps & have at least a year clean & sober! you can still be there for her & what she's going through but, your definately right she'll eventually bring u down b/c u need help as well! i am also in the process of looking for a sponcer. i don't have one at all right now. i wish u luck on finding one & i hope i find one as well!
~hopenfaith~