No we haven't. We've never been with anyone else while married, and I thought we had firm boundaries in place about it. Male or female, it seems the same to me as if it were a male because it's a connection/ intimacy. I've also said I'm not interested in any sort of polygamy or sharing. I've made that clear. She seems to think they can be friends. She wants to go out for drinks and expects nothing to develop beyond friendship. That just seems like I'd be naive going along with it really. Of course feelings would continue to develop. I'm so frustrated by this. I thought we'd moved on.