I'm sorry you're struggling so much. From what my T has told me when I've talked more in general about termination with clients, many T's don't feel it's ethical to continue contact with a client once they've terminated. Because it puts them in an awkward position--if you're still communicating back and forth, are you still technically their client? Are they still liable for you? And then they're doing that without pay. Also, if a client terminates, then T's tend to want to respect that decision. "Chasing" a client, even just asking them to come in for another session, can be considered unethical. So your T's may be going by that theory, and this has nothing to do with you--it's just their standard for handling clients who have terminated.


If you feel you *do* want another session with either of them, if you want to discuss this more, you can certainly email and come right out and say that you've realized you'd like another session to wrap things up (or call and request it). Then it would be clear what you're asking for. As it sounds like you have some unfinished business/loose ends you want to discuss with each of them. I'd think at least the male T would grant you that. Or even if you want to go back to therapy with him, even on a less frequent basis, like biweekly or once a month. Maybe think about whether you'd want to try that?