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sarahsweets · Jan 25, 2020 at 06:20 AM

Hey @Resonance18: I used to overthink everything. Through a combo of therapy and getting sober I learned how much energy that took and how much head space I was renting to everyone and everything I encountered. I learned through the years what I crassly call the "F**k its" I mean learning to care for me, and not what other people think about it. I know my own motivations. If people do not like me they can go F**K themselves. If they do not want to engage with me they can F**K off. I am not saying this is said to people its sort of the process I came to after years of self examining and giving weight to people who have no business affecting me in the way they used to. Its very freeing.

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Originally Posted by Resonance18

and analyze yourself in social settings?
Even when I'm with close friends, I'm analyzing everything in my mind.
For example, I think :"did I sound to condescending"? "did I sound stupid"? "Should I have said it"?
I wish I could just let go and have fun with people instead of ruing it by over thinking and then regret what I say or do.