((((((((lindee)))))))) you're obviously not a bad person or it wouldn't even enter your head to write a sympathy note...you'd just think so what. believe me when i tell you that a sympathy note will be just as appreciated as showing up. sometimes it's so overwhelming having to deal with everybody in person when you've suffered a loss that a sympathy note is more appreciated anyways..going by my own personal experience.

just know that you're a good person because at least you care.

be good to yourself.