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Originally Posted by bpcyclist
You and she are both playing with fire here, in my opinion.
In my experience, any seriously committed person who finds themselves interested in or attracted to another human should cut off all contact with that person--for the good of the primary relationship. That is what a committed person would do, in my view. It is teh adult thing to do.
If she won't do that, then I am not sure what you have in her.
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Thanks for your reply, I agree with it. I tried explaining that to her 6 months ago but she pressed and pressed. Still got to the point of her not having any communication with her.
She has not been in contact with this person from my understanding and I don't believe she's lying about it. But she said she's been thinking about her lately, and has been off and on for the past 6 mo. which, again she hasn't reached out to this person. I'm not sure why she would tell me this unless she's guaging my reaction to them becoming friends/ alleviating her own guilt about her thoughts.
She says she "can't control her thoughts." But then, we can control our thoughts... How would anyone get anything done if we couldn't? She says I was angry at her for her thougths but I don't view it that way. I explained if it were me I'd have taken the last 6 months to work on not thinking about that person...
It is playing with fire and I've tried to explain that to her countless times. But again there's been no contact... What do I say, stop thinking about this person? I can't control her thoughts.
The only plan I can think that I can do is to seek marriage counseling