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Old Jan 25, 2020, 05:18 PM
SarahSweden SarahSweden is offline
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Thanks. Yes, itīs the same person but now weīve decided to meet to talk about my issues.


No, we have always talked in such a way, like colleagues or similar, about psychiatry in general, about therapy, about politics and so in without getting into my personal matters.

We donīt have any specific goals, at least not as within CBT but Iīve mentioned to her some of my goals even if they arenīt practical to their nature. As an example I mentioned to her I want to reduce shame and I want to process certain things.

I havenīt mentioned to her I want a warmer approach but I told her a lot about how I felt about the two therapists I didnīt continue with. I told her I was negatively affected by them not smiling, not sharing about themselves, for being too cold.

But I donīt know if she understands I need more of validation or if this happens because we just started out again after the holidays.


Iīll try to mention it to her, Iīm now allowed to e-mail. I also thought of trying to mention something more deep and serious and see how she reacts to that. Last time I felt she handled what I mentioned to her as it was nothing much to bother about and I got disappointed by that.


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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
Is that the same person you were meeting in absence of a therapist? Was she always this way when just meeting to chat or did she become more distant in her new role? Is this therapy more goal oriented or one day at a time? Maybe ask her what goals should you set and ask if she can provide more elaborate understanding of your needs? Personally I’d not necessarilly want t to be all lovey dovey. Does she know that you want more loving approach?

Some people greatly benefit from making comparisons to how someone else might handle something or how society is effecting something or what’s common for others. Personaly I find it helpful. Your t might not know that you prefer she doesn’t do that. Could you email her if not address face to face