American culture usually demands over-the-top extroversion, and is very noisy and fast and intense. Those who don't fit that mold are too often seen as weak and "less than," and get excluded. That certainly doesn't help us to make any connections. You said your job is pretty good. Do you have family members or friends who are understanding and accepting of who you are?

I'm also 35 and shy. My parents are both shy too so we get each other without judgement in that regard. I have no friends or partner, and social events usually don't go well for me.

You can talk to a therapist about social anxiety if it's something you want to address. But also realize that there's nothing wrong with being an introvert. Please don't impose harsh judgement on yourself. And dealing with the public sucks for most people. It's loud and unpredictable and people can be really nasty with little provocation.