WOW!! And I thought MY dad was a jerk. I drifted away from my father and eventually my mother after I found out a couple of things later in life...No. you are not "selfish". You are saving yourself a load a BS that you don't need. Most of the reason I am such a hard ***** is because of my parents. In SOME ways that has helped me. But in others, it didn't. Oh...the SHOWER..... Both myself and my sister experienced the "shower police"..even though HE could be in there as long as he wanted....