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Originally Posted by bluebicycle
My sister is being abusive toward people again, including my dad.
My dad yelled at her because she almost ran over a guy crossing the street with a baby in his arms. He wasn't in a crosswalk, but apparently she was driving 50mph in a 30mph zone and said, "I don't care. There's no crosswalk," and came within like 1 foot of hitting him. (Apparently it was VERY close.) And then she almost hit someone at a stop sign about 2 mins later because she didn't stop completely or look both ways. Now she has been yelling at my dad and saying he's an asshole for telling her how to drive. blah blah blah. And she says he's a POS who clearly doesn't love her. Then my dad said to her that she is being abusive and needs to be respectful. Now she's saying that he's an asshole and that he doesn't deserve her respect.
My sister never learns. She always treats people like trash and doesn't care about consequences. She expects everyone to give her what she wants and let her do what she wants. All she cares about is herself, social life, and material things, sadly.
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Hi Blue,
I am sorry your sister continues to demonstrate her insolence to family, as well as toward other members of the community.
I know her behaviors are very unsettling to both you and to your family.
I understand your parents have tried hard to work with her in order to help her to change her behaviors. It often sounds like she somehow prefers her obnoxious and very hurtful ways. I cannot imagine that anyone acting this way is content inside ; just look at the nature of what pours out of her, even just verbally. it's abusive, very upsetting and just plain toxic.
My main concern is you and with how this affects you.
I do know you have extended an olive branch many times. I know you have tried so hard to have a loving, healthy sisterly relationship with her. I am so very sorry you've been disappointed over and over.
I have been hoping your sister was just in a "stage" and would shift her behaviors, being there for you. I am sad for you that this has not happened.
I am trying to imagine what it must feel like to you, while you are in the midst of this degree of chaos, along with people you do love and do respect, like your dad, for instance?
I think I'd have many different emotions all at once!
In so many ways, your sister seems to be the antithesis of you and of who you are, what you stand for.
I wish I had some great advice right now, but I don't.
As I have shared with you, I have a sister who behaves in a very similar fashion and she is also very defiant no matter the consequences,
I think the best we can do, during the most difficult times, is to protect ourselves from abuse and from any triggers. I know I often have to step back and just release it all and try to move on. It is sad; I grieve what might have been with my sister.
A part of the problem is the fact that you enjoy time with your parents and your sister is too often some sort of a bitter side-kick. I mean, you often cannot spend time with your parents without finding yourself trying to digest your sister's toxic fumes!
I am so sorry her behaviors disappoint you, as a sister. I am also sorry she makes family life so chaotic whenever she creates rolls in like a wild hurricane!
I am so very sorry, Blue.
I am here for you anytime!
