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Old Jan 27, 2020, 10:52 PM
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Originally Posted by roseboi View Post
Yeah, I was going through old entries of my journal from my last therapist. I feel like some things are practiced/learned and some just come naturally to the person, and I could feel the difference but didn't know how to name it at the time. She rarely pushed me to speak about certain things, but I still felt this pressure from the few things she would say or body language.
I compare it to my psychiatrist who is pretty laid back, but would ask a lot more questions. I'd still struggle on the topic but found it a little easier to get things out. I don't think my last therapist was bad though, and I really hope I don't encounter a bad therapist.
Can I ask how do you become confident enough in reading these things in a therapist, or just any person, for you to make a decision based on what you feel? I often don't trust what I feel.
Good question. I think I sometimes feel a vibe from people with certain traits I want to avoid, particularly a professional. But it isn't easy to tell at the beginning of a therapeutic relationship necessarily. Personally, if they seem judgmental and labelling or very inconsistent (a therapist) I would run for the forest or cave.
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