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Originally Posted by bluebicycle
@ Wild Coyote, @ yellow_fleurs -- Unfortunately, this has been going on with my sister for YEARS. She's been like this since she was about 14 years old. (Part of the problem is my mom is a HUGE enabler and gives her whatever she wants.) Now she's 21 going on 22 in April. I don't foresee herself stopping this nasty behavior until something so tragic/severe/scary happens to make her change her mind. So I think she needs a slap in the face from reality, and it won't be pretty. I just hope no one gets hurt when that slap comes around.
The ironic thing is that my sister thinks MY DAD is the one with the problems, and she says that "he needs to talk to a therapist to work out his issues." So, she definitely does not see herself as being problematic. She thinks everyone else is the problem. *eye roll* |
I am guessing your dad confronts her now and then and since her behaviors are just fine, of course, he is the one most in need of psychological assistance.
I hope your mom sees the light and stops enabling. Although, I am very sorry to say I rarely see an enabler stop their own behaviors, as they derive some sort of a gain from enabling to begin with. The very best thing would most likely be family counseling.
It often sounds like you are an "observer" and you watch the chaos, but try to stay out of the fray? I think any approach which spares you the most is a wise approach.
You are a gifted "thinker" and "analyzer." You share a lot on an intellectual level about this situation. I would choose to report and to relate in the same way.
I am concerned about the feelings you may be experiencing, behind/underneath the thinking/analyzing?
I'm not asking you to share those feelings here, unless you wish to do so.
I do think it may be well worth your time/energy to take a look at your feelings around this family situation with your therapist? You may have already done so.
If so, fantastic!
I, personally, would have quite a mix of feelings about the chaos, the family dynamics, etc. Yet, I do realize we are different people and may have very different viewpoints and different feelings about situations like this.
Again, just concerned about how all of this affects you and your welfare.
I think you know my heart is in the right place, even if I am not expressing myself so well today?
