To respond to the replies above;
First I haven’t been with him for 15 years, when I discovered it I found photo date stamps from what is now 15 years, 2005-2006.

And no he doesn’t do this in front of me, i found out unintentionally

And no he does not distribute or upload this content. I’m a trained federal criminal investigator so I know how to check that.

I’m not going to publicly shame him that’s not my style. This is about protecting the women and giving them information so they are informed and can make decisions for themselves as to what they feel comfortable with as far as their relationship with him going forward.

So with that said if we can get off the “ why am I with him” train of thought it would be helpful as that is not what I’m dealing with at the moment.
So Back to my original question - the one thought I have is if you knew someone was peeping into someone’s windows it seems no one would hesitate to tell the woman about it. this seems a lot Like that as it is non consensual sexual activity but we all (including me) seem to have problems with the disclosure and problems coming back on me for doing so. I just think that is interesting and something to ponder.