Yep. It sounds like you've never been stalked.

Sometimes, that matters.

If you don't understand why people like myself are having a strong reaction to your post, the wise thing to do would be to listen.

I wish I could go back to not having been stalked, but I don't have that choice. I'll always be sensitised to men who decide they'll get a kick out of sexualising me against my will. A close friend some years ago had a similar experience, and I promise you that she was never the same again.

Bear in mind, your boyfriend is about to turn these girls into women like me.

Perhaps the worst thing is that - to the rest of the world - NOTHING is happening. It seems like no big deal (at first, anyway). The instigator knows this, of course. One was openly smug about it. They know they can retreat behind, But I was just... I was only...

My stalkers would have been delighted with the way you're downplaying it.

These women have been sexualised without their permission.

BTW being a Peeping Tom is also NOT OK.