Earthmama, yes it does hit home how much we miss that being listened and understood when T's gone. This is my 4th yr of Ts vacations and all of them have been a challenge...one minute you feel your managing, the the next its like you don't know how to get through the day...I havent thought about T's return, I'm afraid too becasue its mixed with pleasure and anger...how dare be absent, but also, thank god she's here...imagiine if this "hole" where she isn't was forever? Oh thats scary..