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Originally Posted by bluebicycle
My sister has an apartment now and she's going to be moving out soon to work in the city. She's just in the process of moving her stuff in.
My mom will probably continue the enabling even after she moves out. She hands her money and all that.
You're right that maybe my mom is afraid of the repercussions. I remember when my mom told her NO one time, and she totally flipped out. She said in text message, verbatim, "You obviously don't love me anymore. Thanks for nothing. I hope you realize the damage you're doing to our relationship." Manipulative and cold.
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I'm sorry your sister is such an abusive type. Or at least that is how it certainly appears. The only advice I can think of is for your mom (and you, if you like) to seek support in this matter. There are many places to get support and counseling for dealing with abuse. If there is alcohol or drugs involved, even Al-Anon could be helpful for some. Al-Anon is not for everyone, but it helps some.
It also seems like therapy would benefit your sister. Please forgive me if you mentioned this in the past, but I'd wonder if she has some psychiatric diagnosis of sorts. What you describe is clearly dysfunctional behavior/thinking on her part.