I'm sorry you had to deal with this experience regarding your child and then to not get what you needed from your T. It sounds to me like she was failing in validating your feelings and experiences. So not only did she not help with the trauma, but it sounds like she left you feeling worse in a way. I mean, "It could have been worse" is generally not helpful in any situation, so I'm surprised a T would resort to that. I'd try texting and/or calling her to see if you can get an extra session or phone call.


I just did this with my T about something, where I felt he missed the mark Monday when I explicitly said that I wanted to talk about x aspect of something that had just happened. But he was trying take a different perspective, and while it was helpful on some level, I felt dismissed about what I'd really wanted to address (somewhat ironically, part of what I'd wanted to addressed had involved feeling dismissed by someone else...). So I asked if he had an extra session, and he was able to give me one yesterday (he's usually very flexible in that regard). It took me a bit of time to get across to him what I needed, but he ultimately got there, and it ended up being a productive, if emotional and difficult, session. I could have just waited till the next session, but I'm someone who prefers to get things resolved sooner than later.


The fact that you're also still dealing with the trauma would suggest to me that you should reach out. The worst that could happen is that she doesn't have any time available to talk on the phone or in person. Hopefully she'll be able to find some time for you though. Hugs...