I would contact her in one of the ways she allows and let her know about the email. It really sucks that she missed what you needed by that much. My T has not done the same thing but a couple of times he has done similar things. When we have talked about it he usually admits that when the wound is that fresh and raw he wants SO badly to do everything perfect that he ends up totally messing it up. He has always felt horrible after similar sessions. He has also always been very thankful for the opportunity to fix it/talk through it before I spiral it into something bigger than it started out as.
I hope you and your daughter are able to find the peace, healing and support you need.