I have been to MANY ts over the years. Some of them I’ve not clicked with at all, some only a little, most well enough, and a few very well. A couple I even stopped when I was younger because my mom thought some things about them were inappropriate. So, I have worked with many different people. I remember only 3 instances where I made a t uncomfortable or angry. One had asked me to tear up a page of a phone book and chuck it to release anger. He demonstrated this and when I felt awkward copying this, he felt really embarrassed and expressed that to me. I was only 15 at the time I think so the whole thing seemed a bit odd. The second time I’m not comfortable talking about. The third time though, I had a therapist I liked, but for some reason I got the impression she was never really crazy about me. She tried to “graduate” me a couple times when just about anyone who knew me post 3rd baby could have told you was well too far premature. I’m not someone who forgets appointments as a rule but there have been times in my life where I’ve been worse at this (notably when I’ve been very, very unwell). I’d been seeing her shortly after I got out of the hospital with ppd after my youngest’s birth and I missed 2 appts (separated by at least months). I texted her a nonchalant apology after the second time I missed which I did feel bad for. I owed her a much more genuine response but needless to say she never responded to me again. I think missed appts must have been a pet peeve For her (probably none of them like it). I even tried to email her again months later to give her that proper apology and updated her on how well things were going and still she never responded. It hurt my heart but I got it. And that’s ok. Not everyone is always going to like me.

Anyway, I know that is a very long example but I guess my point is ts are human. They do have anger. They do have likes and dislikes and some will connect better with you than others. And that is ok. It is also, however, very different than what you are describing. You are describing ts who don’t seem to have much compassion for their clients. And that is not fair to you. But yes, I do think you can have an incredibly different experience if you find the right person. I’ve never had anyone amaze me as much as current t. The comfort level I have with her is amazing. I trust her with my entire life...all of it! And she treasures that genuinely. Not all of them do, certainly.