I’m in the process of trying to find a new T, but really don’t seem to be having much luck.
So far I’m met with four and none of them seem right for me. The first one I just felt something was a bit off, she told me her life story and said she could help any client that came to her with any problem, the second told me I was too complex for private therapy due to my suicidal ideation, the third was very cold and barely raised a smile and the fourth is too expensive and isn’t willing to reduce their fee.
I’m just wondering whether this is the norm? I’m in the UK and all but one of these Ts have charged for this initial session so even just trying to find a T is proving expensive let alone then having regular sessions.
My previous T was male as I had specifically thought a male may be more healing for me due to certain issues that I have but I think it actually encouraged me to practice ingrained unhealthy thinking patterns. He was also the first and only T that I went to interview. This time I thought I would opt for a female to see if that makes a difference and also change the style of therapy from person centred to psychodynamic or integrative but now I’m wondering whether this is why I don’t feel like I’m connecting to these new Ts.
Did anyone else struggle to find a T they felt comfortable with?