Sounds like you have issues with how you think and feel about porn. I recommend that you both read Sex at Dawn. Women and men are so far apart when it comes to drives and impulses. Let me put this in a gentle way: if you ever have a son, and he comesbacross the internet, and randomly comea to enjoy a certain kink--because sex is the most complicated and varied thing about humankind--would you publicly shame your own son, and have that stain on him for the rest of his life? All it takes to start the public shaming is for you to knock over the first domino and a field of fire will burn like a scourge, all because you feel and think differently aboit something as menial as what was going on in tje privacy, that went no further than him with computed screen.