Update:

I just got off the phone with her. It was a good conversation. I started off by telling her that I was sure I was misinterpreting her and what I heard was totally not her intentions. I told her briefly what I heard in general she apologized and said she had realized what she was doing was not what I needed. She asked for specific things she said that were hurtful. I told her that there were a few things but again I was pretty sure she did not intend to hurt me. She wanted to know what they were though so we could talk about it. So I told her. She again apologized and could understand why I heard that even though it was not what she was saying. She also apologized for not truly being present to the pain and instead was trying to help me look at things from a different perspective. Which was not how she wanted to handle it.

At the end she said if anything like this happens always contact her. She is glad I did rather than hold on through the weekend.