You are absolutely correct OE. You've always had such wise council.

You are absolutely right about my reasons for being a Domme. That was obvious to me when I made that choice as well as to my husband. He understood why and seemed supportive. That's why I was so caught off guard when he objected. He is more the type to give me whatever I ask for. I've learned over the years to be careful of that. Lol! What you think you want you don't always, at least once you have it. Being a Domme really appealed to me not just because of the control - though that's part of it - but because most of what you do in a D/s relationship is about compassion and discipline. The submissive, a good one anyway, gives themselves over to their dominant (male - Dom, female- Domme). It's about trust and self control.

The biggest mistake people make when thinking about submissives, males in particular, is that they are weak or somehow a lesser human being. Nothing could be further than the truth. I've seen and had submissives that were from all kinds of high stress professions. Doctors, lawyers, business owners, police officers, firemen, and the list goes on. They all have jobs where they have to be in control 24/7. Submission gives them release. I have yet to come across a submissive who I would consider to be a wimp. I have, however, met dominants that I would consider unworthy of their title because they abuse their power.

Thanks again for your insights.

WW