Despite the fact that my recent ex (12 years, a glorious daughter) is a major liar, I really don't know very much about it. I just know that she is capable of looking me straight in the eyes and lying to me, sometimes about very, very important things. She cheated muptiple times. Lied about that. On AND ON. Just so weird that she can do this and give it no thought.

Anyway, Despite all the agony she put me through, my own sick brain still chooses often to remember the good times and I still love her, probably, partly as a result of that.

So, I hear ya. I think you are in for a world of heartache with this dude. He's got serious issues and I don't believe they are easy to address, even if he wanted to--and he probably does not want to.

Take care of yourself and your child.