I had a good therapist when I was 14-16 in residential treatment. I contacted her when I was 18 In 2011 just to tell her I was doing good. She responded and asked if I would have lunch with her. She asked again in 2012 and I left it at that. Then she friended me on Facebook in 2018. Which I thought was kinda weird. She wanted to have lunch again. I thought ok. She told me “don’t tell any of those other girls on your Facebook your friends with me.” She commented on basically every one of my posts. Mind you she’s about 70 years old now. Then maybe 10 months ago she sent me some really odd messages in messagener. I couldn’t tell if she was acting weird or if she got hacked or something. But I deleted her and blocked her. Then today at work I got a call from her. It was totally unexpected. I let it go to voicemail and then went into the bathroom to listen to it. She said she hadn’t been able to reach me because she had been doing the rounds in the hospitals but when the weather would get nicer she would drag me down with her to a restaurant. I literally freaked out. Mind you I was at work. The whole “drag me down with her” thing freaked me out. Plus the hospital comments. I simplified the situation to my boss. Mentioned an odd teacher giving me trouble. My boss and I have a great relationship. I said I had to call my mom. I was very very frightened. My mom was at yoga. I ended up reaching my aunt who was with her. My aunt gave the phone to my mom who calmed me down. When work was over my mom listened to the message and said that it did sound like she just wanted to have lunch again but that her behavior overall is very odd. She blocked her number for me.


But I just don’t get it. Why is this happening? I’ve heard of clients stalking former therapists but never the other way around.