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Jan 31, 2020, 07:27 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2011
Location: Northeast USA
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Spotting, Living With, or Working for a Whopper of a Liar
Can you tell on first meeting that someone might be a troubled liar? It’s difficult, but Ekman has found this rule-of-thumb helpful: "In the first half hour [of meeting someone], if I want to invite them home for dinner, I watch out!" he says. That means their charm, a characteristic of liars, may have worked its devilish magic.
If a new friend or acquaintance shows his colors as a compulsive or pathological liar, the mentally healthy thing to do is walk away, Ekman says. "What people value in friendships is truthfulness,” he says.
While those closely tied to a pathological liar may stay optimistic that the liar will change, Ekman tells them: "You also need to be a realist. Do you really want to spend your life, at work or at home, wondering if you’re being duped?"
Pathological liars are so good, Feldman agrees, ''so you won't know when you’re being lied to." Don't expect remorse, either, he says. "Pathological liars will look at a situation entirely from their own perspective. They have no regard for another's feelings about what might happen as a result of their lies," Feldman says.
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Found this and it does say the healthy thing to do is end the relationship.
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They have no regard for another's feelings about what might happen as a result of their lies
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The above quote is true, important to remember.
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