Blue, I almost could have written your original post. My sister has been a similar pain in my arse. She's narcissistic, manipulative, and I wonder sometimes if she has borderline personality disorder. Everything is about her, her terrible life (she has made some very bad choices throughout her adult life and blames everyone but herself for her problems), and her physical ailments. She has also used my youngest son as a taxi, a servant, and a whipping boy. The best thing that ever happened to us was when she moved clear across the country last September to live with her daughter, after getting kicked out of three assisted living facilities and a couple of private homes over the course of about five years. It has never occurred to her that she might be the problem.

She also treats me like a child who doesn't know her way around the world. I am 61 years old, she's 73. It's a good-sized age difference for sure, but I'm no longer young nor am I irresponsible. I love her, but I've found it's much safer to love her from a distance. I haven't totally cut her out of my life, but thankfully she doesn't have a phone right now and can only contact me or my son via Messenger. Which she hasn't done much of since she moved...I think she's angry with me. She'll get over it, or she won't; either way, I'm grateful that I no longer have to deal with her tantrums and manipulation tactics.