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Old Feb 01, 2020, 01:08 PM
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Originally Posted by Open Eyes View Post
Maybe you should go into politics. They are ALWAYS agruing and they lie and gaslight alot too. Dont seem to care as long as they win elections.

Just a thought
Yeah, I know there are avenues I could take that would allow me to utilize this "skill" with fewer repercussions, and I make an effort to stick to those paths.

But that isn't what I'm asking. What I want to know is how this sort of behavior affects the average person. Obviously, engaging in this manner doesn't bother me and never has, so I don't really understand how it affects other people. In the past, when I completely "removed the mask," so to speak, I was a bit surprised to find out how damaging it actually was. Initially, I blamed other people for being too sensitive (which one might call gaslighting). But it kept happening, and I think I'm self-aware enough now to admit that maybe it isn't everyone else around me who's wrong.

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Originally Posted by TishaBuv View Post
Sometimes the pay off of a good couple’s fight is great make up sex.
I've heard that. It's a sort of dynamic that can turn toxic real quick though.

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Originally Posted by sarahsweets View Post
Do you mean like debating? Or a full on emotional mean argument?
Both. I try to stick to the former, but the former can easily lead into the latter, and I don't always have the sensitivity to know when to back off.

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Originally Posted by mote.of.soul View Post
But as time went by I realized it actually alienates a lot of people as well. People felt uneasy around me, tolerated me, and that realization I didn't enjoy.
Right, I found myself in this position as well. To be honest, after I got over the initial shock of it, I didn't mind it that much. I'd still like to know when it's happening, though. It's one thing to deliberately craft a thorny personality so that people keep their distance. It's quite another drive people away inadvertently because one can't control one's own belligerence.

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My opinion is, yes, some or maybe even most people, are just putting up with you, and are 'too nice' as you put it, to tell you so.

But if you can find friends who totally get into it, then cool.
Cool. So what would be the best way of finding out who's down for some combative discussion? Or better, what's a good way to tell if someone isn't down for it before any feelings get hurt?

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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
so he now argues with customer service reps, eBay customers or employees, various organizations, city council etc etc it’s quite hilarious, some things are unbelievable.
This is what I'm trying to avoid. Being that one asshole who argues with customer service reps because they don't have a way out without losing their jobs.
Thanks for this!
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