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Old Feb 01, 2020, 02:05 PM
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Originally Posted by unaluna View Post
Geez, doesnt this guy get to have any PRIVACY? What are you giving up for him? Maybe orgasms arent important to you, but does he have to stop having this part of his life, just because you dont? Who died and made you the Pope? I dont agree with anybody here. He is responsible for his own pleasure, you are responsible for yours. Sometimes you share. You are not the boss of him. He is not the boss of you.
I agree, and to answer the OP's other question, it is perfectly normal for people in relationships to watch porn. They often do it together too.

If one of you is not comfortable with watching porn then you are incompatible. It is not cheating on you to watch porn any more than giving a woman walking down the street who looks good a second glance is cheating. If he lied to you, then that's a separate issue, and it's not about the porn, it's about the lie.

I wish we'd stop making people who are into porn bad on these forums. People who are into porn are not bad and are not cheaters. This is about a lie, not about someone's sexual preferences.

It sounds like he is the wrong partner for you. Unless you can be okay with him watching porn, then you should find someone who doesn't watch porn. But my understanding is that there are very few men in the world who don't, at times, at least check it out.
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