So you are saying that the weakness in your head -your insecurity or whatever - takes priority over the - which is it? strength or weakness? in your partner's head?

This is something that is a part of your partner's character, habits, personality, sanity, morals, mental health, physical health, emotional health, self-care - but because the lady's ego is insecure, he has to stop? He is just having an orgasm, in the privacy of his MIND, not with another human. I really think you are stretching the definition of cheating. A partner should not mean "thought police."

Plus, if the lady thinks she is stronger and he is weak, then she should tolerate it. Otherwise, she should not ask him to do something she is too weak to do herself. Thats what equality is, not bossiness.