YES my BF does get to have privacy. And yes him having orgasms is important to me and trust me he has them, often. . I found these things by going on his phone with permission to do things and the phone opening to pictures of naked woman and/or an account I had known nothing about. I am not as upset that he just watches porn I am mainly upset because I have tried to talk about this with him and he lied saying he didn't need to watch/ would quit (like it was no big deal ). I don't freak out or over react my feeling just get hurt because we have lived together for over 3 1/2 of the 4 years we have been together and we don't lie or keep secrets from each other.. like ever. Other than this porn stuff he seems to be really honest and loyal to me. We get along great and do almost everything together. I guess my fear was that if he is looking at porn and insisting it be his little secret rather than something we could have a brief discussion about then maybe there is more things he is keeping from me or this could develop into a bigger problem in the future. Every time I bring up the topic of porn at all he changes the subject or completely shuts down. Neither of us are mean about it at all but he just completely refuses to discuss it. How do I start a conversation about this without making him uncomfortable ? We have always been very good about coming to a compromise on every obstacle we have faced in our relationship but maybe unaluna is right and he shouldn't have to give up his porn stuff .. BUT I don't think its okay at all that he lied to me about it. I absolutely hate lying and he's definitely aware of that