I’m still here! All of my posts take awhile as I am a new member and they must be reviewed ! I do appreciate everyone for sharing their opinions with me. I knew from my online research that was is a controversial topic and lots of people feel it is totally okay while many others disagree completely. I guess I was hoping to see how others would feel in my situation and maybe get a few tips on how to talk to my bf about this topic/ how to work on building trust ( if there is a way?) like I mentioned earlier this is my first relationship so some times it’s just hard for me to tell what’s normal problems vs what’s unhealthy. Everyone in here has definitely given me a lot to consider.