Una I hear what you are saying.

No one should try to change anyone else.

But people also have rights to not be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t meet their expectations.

For example pot is legal in my state. I however neither smoke it nor am interested in having a partner who does. There are ton of people who do ton of things I have no interest in and don’t want my partner to partake. Hence I’d not date or marry them.

If op doesn’t want a guy who pays premium Snapchat to look at or hook up with naked women it’s her right. I don’t believe she should change him, I believe she should leave him.

Every time someone says they are upset re porn, ton of people on this forum argue rather vigorously how much they love porn and how much they enjoy their partners to do so. But who cares? How is it helpful? They can enjoy it as much as they want. They are not OP though.

ton of people drink, smoke and do drugs. I can’t care less. I don’t. And don’t want to be married to someone who does. I think it’s just common sense to have preferences. It makes no difference to me what others like in their relationships. OP knows what SHE doesn’t want. What other members of this forum enjoy with their partners is irrelevant