I do think in my mind I was overly critical. I never, ever said a word though. I’ve never criticized or given her advice. I don’t state opinions, I don’t argue. That was very nice behavior for a parent.

My counselor thinks that my feelings showed through even though I never said them. What parent doesn’t have feelings about their child if they are not making decisions the parent deems good? Isn’t being a parent guiding your child? Does being a parent stop after they are adults?

He also said that just because she has angry feelings about me not doing what she wanted or helping like she wanted doesn’t mean I have to guilt myself. That was an empowering thing for me to hear. He said her feelings about something don’t mean I have to feel the same way.