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Feb 01, 2020, 07:24 PM
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Originally Posted by unaluna
Maybe the OP is asking, would other people walk away if they REALLY didnt like something? My parents had advised me to trick someone into marrying, whatever it took, then force him to do things my way after we were married. Maybe the OP is wondering if there is better advice to be had than something like that.
My answer is, you decide what compromise you can live with. You take responsibility for your decisions. I knew a perfectly nice guy but he smoked pot a lot. I wasnt willing to have that in my life. I lost out on a lot of good stuff - life with him could have been pretty good, if i look at how he turned out. Things i REALLLLLY wanted. And now pot is legal in our state.
So what exactly is the point of sitting up there on your high horse? That is what im saying we need to look at. Anybody who is trying to decide something for somebody else. Make the decision FOR YOURSELF and live with THAT. I wouldnt advise closing your eyes to a lie - but decide you choose to live with it. Nobody's perfect.
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I mean, regardless of what it's about, I wouldn't stay with someone lying to me or making promises that they then break.
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