Someone asked why he didn’t just say that he wouldn’t stop the porn instead of lying about it. If he had told the truth, how would you have reacted? Would that have been a deal breaker? Would you have accepted his porn habit? He probably lied because it was a way to keep you, as he has no intention of giving up the porn.

This is just about boundaries. It could be any boundary.

I held firm to a boundary of mine and I lost one of my most important relationships. My feelings are that if that person truly cared to have a good relationship with me and truly loved me, they would have compromised.