HI BirdDancer!

I am weighing in late; yet, wanted to lend some support.

I'd seen my last pdoc for 20 years. He is a very nice guy, in every way. He had retired approx. 18 months ago. We had decided we wanted to be friends. We are friends, in the sense that we stay in touch via email, sometimes via telephone or text. We don't overdo it. He and his wife have a local band. They do a lot of fundraisers. I see them perform when I attend the event, etc.

If he had voiced such a strong opinion on where I might live in the future, I would feel a bit confused. I would feel confused because he is very well traveled and likely knows and I know he would do his best to protect me. In this case, it is not very likely he would voice any strong opinion.

Mostly, I'd wanted to tell you that I, too, would feel a bit confused if my pdoc had taken such a strong stance.

I hope you and your husband will find a place where you both are happy and will thrive!