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Originally Posted by LilyMop
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Heres what Im thinking. I think instead of focusing on my heartbreak and focusing on the relationship I wanted to have with her, I should have focused on accepting reality and just accepting whatever it was she had to offer me, even if it wasnt how I wanted things to be. People can only give what they have to give and nothing more.
I also think I should have accepted that she made her life choices and it was ok if I didnt agree. I also should have accepted that my ability to help her, financially or otherwise, was limited. How do you love and care for and give to a person who isnt really in your life?
I desperately want to accept that I cant have the relationship with my daughter that I always dreamed of and I desperately want to stop berating myself with guilt.
Am I on the right track? I feel so confused. One minute Im at peace and the next minute I feel heartbroken and full of guilt all over again.
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All we have is today, this moment and what seems the best approach that you can see today.
I feel sure that you made the best decisions you could, for reasons you thought were good, at the time.
It's just a sucky, sad world sometimes. We do the best we can, and if something we are doing now isn't working or doesn't seem so good in the light of a new understanding, then we can change. Seems like that's about all we've got?