I've been reading this thread because I still wonder whether or not my diagnosis was wrong (dependant personality disorder and not borderline). However, like you, I too have felt like it was only with certain relationships that I've been crazy. The ironic thing (or sad thing?) is that I'm not so mentally crazy with my husband. It makes me wonder if I chose him because I felt calm with him as opposed to the crazy attraction I've had to men in the past (and well, frankly a few in recent past)...I'm wondering if this is why i chose to marry him, because I have bpd??? Like I mean, i took a leap of faith with him and yes, he did make me feel good, but i never had those sick to your stomach butterflies you know?? Which actually gives me new problems though because when we fight or rather when he lectures me, I get really upset and I lose passion for him, which, you know causes other problems. Sigh!