I know what you mean. Interesting how you still think he's a good guy. I get really annoyed at bossy people. One guy I barely knew seemed to think no one else ever looked stuff up online or knew the things he knew. He tried to micromanage my life and I had to freeze him out eventually.

After such encounters I get mad at the condescension and wish I had thought to stick up for myself when it happened. Maybe your co-worker just needs to be told how his behavior affects you. Not saying anything lets the resentment build up and you spend your life feeling like a doormat. If he isn't the defensive narcissistic type, you might find a way to give some feedback to your co-worker. Maybe ask him to have a drink or coffee together so it feels like a friendly encounter? In such cases, it's usually best to do it 1 on 1 casually so he doesn't feel like your are ganging up on him or talking behind his back.