My dad is like this. But I don’t live with him and hopefully never will unless he becomes incapacitated and will need full time care. But for now I visit, listen, nod, help around and go home.

I’d not be in relationship or marriage like that. I know how stressful it was for my mother

Now my husband worries about things going wrong. He has quite severe OCD and Tourette’s so it comes with the territory. But he is actually very upbeat and positive, he just a worrier re safety (his OCD is safety related) and need his compulsions to eliminate fears. Also therapy and things like meditation and breathing exercises help him a lot. Well plus he takes meds albeit low dose but it helps a lot

Does your partner see a therapist? Has some type of mental health concern? Or is he just a grumpy person?