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I guess my fear was that if he is looking at porn and insisting it be his little secret rather than something we could have a brief discussion about then maybe there is more things he is keeping from me or this could develop into a bigger problem in the future.
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This is quite possible. I imagine that one reason for his secrecy is your threat to leave. If nothing negative actually happens to him, if you even marry him, he could be emboldened to practice his habit more openly.
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Every time I bring up the topic of porn at all he changes the subject or completely shuts down. Neither of us are mean about it at all but he just completely refuses to discuss it.
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I wonder if his interest in porn is actually an addiction. Have you googled porn addiction? There is a lot out there.
For example, stonewalling, defensiveness about using can be signs of an addiction.
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How do I start a conversation about this without making him uncomfortable?
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Sometimes you just have to make people uncomfortable.
In general, how easy is it for you to bring up difficult stuff with people? Sometimes it is necessary to address difficult, uncomfortable stuff.
How will it be for you if you are married and he is using porn as much or more, with less secrecy, and you cannot bring it up because he is "uncomfortable"? You are then married both to him and to porn.