@LadyShadow, I understand how you feel and I can relate, to an extent. Just know what's in store for you ahead with this relationship. It's going to be a long and difficult road to full recovery, IF he ever gets there. You can't be his savior -- he has to do this for himself on his own. It's not your job to fix his problems. And like it's stated above, he will quit when good and ready, when he's sick of being an addict or perhaps after he's hit rock bottom. I've read it takes hitting rock bottom to really start on the road to recovery. Are you willing to go through this roller coaster ride with him? This is what you're facing. And no, sometimes I don't think that love is enough. There's many other factors at play to make a relationship work and be compatible long-term.

It's not hypocritical if you have to break up with him over his addiction. You have your share of issues and maybe they intersect with his, but this is about your own health and well-being as well. You can't bring yourself down in order to be with someone. It's just not healthy.