@TishaBuv, I have my viewpoint and I agree with Dr Phil’s assessment. He’s not the only professional psychologist who states these things. I stated above that everyone has their own opinions and feelings on this issue. It’s totally subjective. And it’s fine if someone is more lax and believes the opposite of me. I don’t even really care. To each their own. Don’t be offended by what I’m posting or take it personally. You have your views and I have mine. Dr Phil has his and he’s very forthcoming on his view. I don’t see it as bullying at all. He’s adamant in his viewpoint that porn is harmful to relationships. I’m not posting to argue with anyone or debate over it. I’m posting to open women's eyes to the underlying implications of porn..

I had an ex who was addicted to porn and it became very harmful to me, to our relationship and to our intimacy level. I see this as being a very valid and real issue. It does offend many women in their relationships with men, and it can become hurtful. Just because you’re lax about it doesn’t mean other women aren’t hurt by it. Many women feel cheated on when their partner is frequently viewing porn. Many women feel inadequate and like they can’t measure up. As I said, to each their own. It’s subjective.

Every relationship is also different and everyone has their own boundaries of what is acceptable and what’s not acceptable. What matters is what YOU are comfortable with. If you want to fantasize about sex with other men that’s your prerogative. And if you’re ok with your husband fantasizing about sex with other women, then that’s fine. Some couples have agreed upon open marriages; some have threesomes or swing. All of that is FINE as long as no one is getting harmed or hurt within the coupledom.

Like I said, this is simply my own viewpoint and boundary limit of where I stand on marriage, commitment, fidelity and saying "I do" forever to someone. I firmly believe in the above statement that "...marriage is, in part, about sexual exclusivity; it is about “forsaking all others.” Maybe you don't agree with that, which is perfectly fine.

Women in our society are also conditioned to think and believe that they must accept porn and their partner watching porn, even if it offends them or hurts their feelings. I take a stand on that and say that we don't have to accept it IF it makes us uncomfortable, insecure and feeling unworthy. Women are taught to be more submissive to the male. I am NOT one of those women.